Fall/Winter Update: Merry Christmas

Take 19 or something out of 32…

It’s been 2½ months since we all made the big move to Scotland.  We are living in Elie, a small ‘fishing’ village of around 600 people, which is primarily folks who have retired here or are on holiday from Edinburgh.  We have felt very welcomed (and noticed),  “Aye, you’re th’ American family that just moved to South St.”  We were quickly on a first name basis with the local shop owners, started attending the (emphasis on one) church here in Elie, the Sunday they celebrated their 375th anniversary in their current building, and have gotten to know families whose kids go to the local two classroom primary school (next to the golf course).  I drive 20 minute to the University of St Andrews, sometimes with the professor I actually came here to study with who lives nearby.

We are all experiencing our own versions of homesickness as we head into Advent and Christmas here in Scotland.  The colder climate, 6 hours of daylight in the winter, the many new people and routines and the multitude of little and big decisions to be made definitely has had an impact.  On the whole things have come together incredibly well for us and we are constantly grateful for all of you who are helping make this opportunity a reality.

The primary aim in being here is to study the Bible and history more in-depth about experiencing God in everyday life.  To really study Greek, Hebrew, the history of how different people in different time periods interpreted the Bible and particularly the period I’m focused on in Second Temple Judaism (300BCE – 70 AD) when Jesus arrived on the scene it’s best to do it with experts in these fields, around the necessary resources (a big library) and a community of people devoting themselves to it.  Part of living outside of St Andrews in Elie, of spending the first few years of my studies (and prior decade in pastoral ministry) focused on what this all looks in everyday life and to daily translate this all in a way a 2,4, 6 and 8 year old can understand is to keep standing in a place where in-depth Bible study meets everyday, even mundane life.  Taking a Greek phrase from the New Testament used to translate Immanuel and all that we are celebrating at Christmas, how this “with us God” is just that, with us, right now.

Happy Advent and Merry Christmas!

Take 18 or something out of 32…(how many kids can Ali hold in place, while appearing to hug them?  She’s got skills…)

02. December 2014 by Greg
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Discerning….How to tell when it’s God talking to you.

If you’ve got to the spot where you are open to the first question (What is God saying to me/us?), then there is the second question:  How do I/we know?  Both of these are huge questions, so simple and so complex all at once.  For all kinds of reasons, many don’t even ask the first question.  (“Wait, you’re telling me you hear voices in your head?”)  But, once you do, don’t be scared of the second one.  There are ways to help us discern if God is talking to us or if it is someone/something else including just ourselves.

As always with these posts, I like to keep them short so I’m going to share a few thoughts and then more later.  Future posts titled “Discerning…” will build on this one.  That’s the idea anyway.

When it comes to testing what we hear/see/experience I like to think of a 3-legged stool.  One leg is the Bible.  Another leg is community.  The other leg is our spirit.

You can put your full weight down on a 3-legged stool and can trust it will hold you up.  Sit on a two or one-legged stool and you better keep both feet on the ground and even an extra hand because that stool is going to be wobbly.

The same goes with the 3-legged stool of discernment.  If what you are hearing/seeing/experiencing resonates with scripture, community and your spirit you can trust it and put your full weight on it.  Only have one or two of these, well it could still hold you, but be careful.  And don’t expect anyone else to sit on your stool.

If this all sounds clear and simple, good because it is now going to get a lot more nuanced and complex.  How do you test what you are hearing with the Bible, community and your spirit?

For starters, read a Bible.  If you are seeking to hear and experience God more and aren’t immersed in the witness of Scripture, to me you are one scary dude or dudette.  If you are already steeped in the story of scripture, great more to come on interpreting the Bible and hearing God’s voice in future posts.  For now read the Bible and pay extra attention to how God speaks to and interacts with people.  What does he say?  What does God seem to care about?  What do people who interacted with him do and say in response?

In terms of community do you have people you can share what you are hearing/seeing/experiencing and trust they can hear God for themselves and discern with you?  Community can be one of the greatest aids and greatest challenges/hindrances to hearing God’s voice.  More on this later…

There is also a lot to be said and learned about discerning with our spirit.  Even using the word ‘our spirit’ is tricky and needs some more clarifying.  God speaks to us through our emotions, our body, our mind, our soul.  Are you in tune with who you are, in touch with your emotions, aware of your body, attentive to your thoughts, familiar with how God interacts with you?

This is all the basic stuff of discernment:  the Bible, community and your spirit.  And there is so much more…

21. November 2014 by Greg
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In the Presence: wave after wave

In the Presence…[attempting a practical look at experiencing God in everyday life:  relax, look, listen, receive, react, repeat]  I think we can all experience God more in everyday life in ways unique to each of us.  This usually involves learning (by doing) practical how-to’s while paying attention to deeper ways we understand ourselves, the world and God (our worldview and identity).

Our worldview and identity is like the foundation of a house or even better a skyscraper.  It’s below the surface but holding the whole structure we can see up. The size, strength, health of your foundation determines the size and type of building you can put on it.  All that to say, worldview and practical how-to go hand in hand.

If you see a post titled “In the Presence” the focus is going to be some practical how-to built around what I think are the basic elements of hearing God’s voice and experiencing him in everyday life:  relax (not striving and at peace), look (focus on the Triune God of the universe), listen (helps when we don’t do all the talking), receive (God is near and always giving and speaking), react (respond, obey or whatever makes sense in terms of what you are experiencing/hearing), repeat (this is ongoing and can become as natural as breathing – you know something you repeat over and over through the day without having to consciously think about and it keeps you alive…stop for too long and well you know what happens).

Alright, enough with the intro…let’s get to the practical.  Across many traditions, throughout history there has been a consistent witness that God is the one initiating and sustaining relationship with us.  His is consistently and constantly speaking, interacting and revealing himself.  Think of the waves of the sea.  One wave comes

after another, in different sets, in different sizes, different tides, but over and over, wave after wave.  Some liken God’s love to waves of liquid love constantly coming, wave after wave.  Want to feel, see, hear the waves of his love?  As you’ll hear from me over and over there are many different ways that work differently for different people.  You can experience the waves by catching and riding them surfing, kayaking, boogieboarding or like a kite surfer jumping off them.  Or you can just wade or swim into the water, any depth you want and feel the waves.  You can experience them by watching them from the beach.  You can just listen to them from inside a house in the night and still experience wave after wave by the sound of them rolling in.  You get the picture…

So try this:  take a few minutes to write down 10 things you are grateful for.  Each of them is like a wave of God’s love in your life.  (See how I did that with the metaphor there…that takes some skill.)  Then for however long you want in a way that is relaxing to you look at, listen and receive from God.  Now, take another few minutes and write down 10 different things you are grateful for.  Now, take some more time, in whatever way you want, to interact with God.  Then, for a third time list 10 more things you are grateful for and just sit back and relax and listen for what comes to mind (thoughts, words, images) feelings (physical or emotional) what you become aware of and react, interact, respond in whatever way seems to make sense…go with the flow, ride the wave, hang loose…alright, I’m done.  Give it a try.

17. November 2014 by Greg
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Off the Cuff: Chill Out Greg

[I’m writing ‘off the cuff’ also ‘known as shooting from the hip’ so it may raise more questions than it does answers, I may or may not even agree with it come tomorrow and it may or may not be helpful…so I love you and good luck]

Ever wake up stressed?  I did and I noticed it.  Stress can be a bit of an unkind messenger, but still an early warning sign that something is breaking.  Kind of like the light ‘service needed’ that can appear on the dashboard of my car letting me know that the car needs something to keep running the way I’m driving it and if I ignore this light (which I’m tempted to do in the midst of all the other things asking for my attention) I might end up going from needing a simple oil change to having to repair a major part in a broken down engine.

As I was on my second cup of coffee with two kids on my lap, one rearranging the shape of my face the other riding a ‘horsey’ also known as my knee, Ali, my wife came into the room with her cup of coffee, looking a bit like she got hung upside down by her toes through a good portion of the night (sorry, babe).  I asked the obvious question, “Where’s my breakfast?”  No, just kidding, I really asked, “how did you sleep last night”?  “Not well at all. I had a couple strange dreams and Joy was up for awhile.  I also woke up feeling really stressed.”  “Me too,” I replied (although I honestly don’t remember the part when I was awake in the middle of the night with our 2 year old.)

Sometimes it takes someone else saying it to really notice.  And whenever we both feel something, in this case stress, Ali and I have learned to pay closer attention to what is going on, in us, around us, in the spiritual atmosphere and see if we can address it.  It is tempting not to.  Stress has become an accepted norm in many of the circles I run in.  It even at times seems to viewed as a badge of honor or seal of I’m doing what I’m supposed to be doing in life.

“Come to me all you who are weary and heavy burdened.  Take my yoke upon you, for my yoke will require you to have more to do than you have time to do it and I will evaluate you on unrealistic measurements of how well you do and base how much I value, empower and even love and accept you on your performance.  So start dancing monkey!…and you will have rest for your souls.”

This is an updated and modern translation based on a loose translation of the Greek of Jesus’ words for our more contemporary contexts.

So Ali and I started by addressing the spiritual dynamics around us (which there have been more of recently).  I won’t go into this much now, some of you might think it strange – and you’re probably right.  But, we didn’t notice much of a shift in our stress which usually indicates that we have believed a lie somewhere along the way and in varying degrees have started to agree with and live out of that lie.

Now there is a lot to this.  Many books have been written, classes been taught, psychological, spiritual and medical wisdom offered to address this whole area.  Too much for me to take on right now ‘off the cuff’.  I’ve come to the conclusion the busyness and stress that comes from a performance oriented mindset and culture is toxic to all things related to intimacy with God and others.  More on this another time.  The clinical research also makes a strong case of the toxic affects it has on our physical health and well being.  So, it makes me wonder, why do we keep doing this to ourselves and others?  And is there a sustainable, realistic way out?

Anyway, that’s enough for now, I’ve got to get back to work…I’ve got so much stuff to do today…

12. November 2014 by Greg
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Update: Summer in Seattle, Surgery and Scotland

kids walking in a row 2014A look back as we move ahead…

Two years ago we decided to enter into this unique season.

Our goals were clear:  be mentored in what it looks like to help people experience God in the everyday stuff of life, immerse ourselves in a community powerfully experiencing God’s presence and study the Bible and church history in-depth on all the above.  It is amazing how well the first two goals came together in Redding, CA.  What we were able to do, see and experience proved incredibly significant for our whole family and our sense of call to help more people experience God everyday.  Hopefully you’ve gotten a sense of this through our updates, blog posts, etc.  And now to have the opportunity to do biblical studies at the University of St Andrews–the school I’ve most wanted to pursue a doctorate.  This really is our dream scenario:  an initial few years of ‘practical’ focus on what this looks like in real life, then time spent on historical, interpretative study of the Bible, centered on God’s presence with us.  We are so grateful how this has come together and for the support and partnership we have received amidst all the challenges and risks we’ve taken to pursue it.  Thank you!

Joy face shot 2014Joy is having surgery for a small hole in her heart called ASD at Children’s Hospital in Seattle.  The condition isn’t ‘major’ but the procedure to heal it is: open heart surgery, 2 days in ICU, one week in the hospital and six weeks to recover.  Pray with us for total healing for our little lady.


SeattleRain2We’re spending four months of our move this summer in Seattle staying with family, saving on housing costs, studying Biblical languages and interpretation, writing and incrementally transitioning to a new climate in Scotland.


We depart in September for St Andrews.  Right now it’s mostly logistics:  selling things, storing others, packing some and giving the rest away. We’re waiting on U.K. VISAs, looking for housing, getting fitted for kilts and working on whatever else we can do on this end.

12. July 2014 by Greg
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What do you want me to do?

I was making a major decision about changing jobs and possibly moving.  This usually involved asking God what he wanted me to do and being obedient as I could regardless of whether I wanted to do it or not.  I somehow my logic was the more I didn’t want to do it, the more likely I could trust it was God talking to me.  Everything changed dramatically one afternoon on my back deck.

Things started as usual, “God, what do you want me to do?”.  God’s response was pretty clear, “What do you want to do?”.  This made me uncomfortable.  It’s not that I hadn’t heard God say this before, but what if I was just telling myself this.  Could I really trust my desires?  Aren’t my desires full of sin and self-interest?  So, I tried a different approach, “What do you want me to want?”  His response again: “What do you want?”.  We went back and forth on this for awhile until God basically said to me, “Think about what you want and when you know let me know.”  And then I saw as in a vision God sitting down, calmly, peacefully right by me and waiting.

So, I took some time to think about it and like unpeeling an onion, I started listing off various things I want from providing for my family and having basic needs met, to other things I want in life and my job.  As I got deeper and deeper into my desires I hit a point when I realized what I want more than anything else.  My main foundational desire is to see heaven come to earth, now.  I really want people to experience more of what it is like in heaven here on earth in everyday life.  And it’s not because this was the ‘right’ answer, but because I authentically desire it.

And that’s when it hit me. “I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you.” (John 15:15)  What Jesus was saying to his disciples he was saying to me, which helped me finally embrace what I was hearing.  Friends make decisions differently servants with their master.   Friends share desires and decide together what to do.  Servants, as I had become accustomed to doing, try to understand their master’s orders as clearly as possible and obediently comply.  There can be joy in this.  It can be out of a servant’s love and gratitude toward the generosity, character and benevolence of the master.  But, still friendship is different, as is being a son/daughter of God (Romans 8) and bride of Christ.  Friends can serve one another, a son/daughter serve his/her parents, a bride her groom, but in terms of biblical imagery its not the other way around.

Now there is alot to hearing God’s voice when we are making decisions, more than I can cover in a blog post.  But, it helps to pay attention to how you view yourself in relation to God.

For some, God is in control of everything and our lives are following a certain blueprint.  Our job in making decisions is to follow this blueprint.  Any deviation can prevent you from experiencing God’s ‘will’ for your life.  I’ve never fully resonated with this view.  I’m not saying it’s wrong, because God speaks to us in different ways.  For me it’s more common to experience God guiding me differently in different situations.  Sometimes God strongly tells me, “do this”, giving me a specific way of handling a decision.  Other times there are multiple options and basically says, “It’s up to you.”  And encourages me to listen to and trust my desires.  And it’s gotten to the point where I’m constantly processing through decisions (big and small) with God.  Sometimes God has input, sometimes not.  Sometimes I can’t tell.

So, what becomes most important in hearing God’s guidance in times of choice is intimacy with God throughout life (not just in making decisions) then when it comes to decisions we can lean on relationship, not just rules, principles and formulas and we can recognize what God is saying to us in the moment.

So, want to get better at hearing God’s voice in times of choice?  Spend time with God when you don’t have a decision to make.  Hang out like friends, with no agenda but relationship.  Go ahead, God loves you, desires you and wants you to share in his desires.

This post is part of a series on hearing God in everyday life.  Right now the focus is on what God talks about:  his love, the truth, conviction about sin and the focus of this post, guidance in decisions.  Consider subscribing to receive future posts by e-mail.







23. April 2014 by Greg
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There’s a difference between true guilt and false guilt—and it’s big.  There’s a difference between the condemnation that comes from our own expectations for ourselves, the expectations of others and Satan’s accusations versus conviction that comes from God.  Can you tell the difference?

This post is part of a series on hearing God’s voice in everyday life.  Sin is one of the things God talks to us about.  But, God’s not the only one talking…

More and more I’m becoming convinced that God is not interested in external controls.  He’d rather not control us and our behavior.  Instead he would prefer we choose righteousness, justice and peace out of love.

“There is no fear in love.  But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment.  The one who fears is not made perfect in love.“  (1 John 4:18)  Could it be possible that God does not use fear of punishment to control people to do what he wants?  This is a big topic with major implications for what we believe about God and the way people operate–too big for just one blog post.   But, it’s important for discerning if it’s God speaking to us about sin.

Jesus responded to different people differently.  His expressions of mercy surprised (and offended) many.  So did his expressions of zeal about justice and judgment when things weren’t the way God intended – i.e. some of the ways he spoke to the religious and political establishment of his day (like Matthew 23).  But no matter what the tone of his voice and the words he chose, the message about sin was the same:  it hurts, kills and destroys you, others and the world.   I don’t ever get the sense sin, even certain sins (depending on your subculture), are no big deal.  Jesus even says our righteousness is to exceed that of the Pharisees (Matt. 5).  Instead God’s understanding of how to bring about change and transformation particularly in terms of decisions, words and actions (our behavior) is not as predictable as we might think.

Take verses like Jeremiah 31:31-34: “I will put my law in their minds and write it on their hearts…”; Romans 8: “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus…”, “The Spirit you received does not make you slaves, so that you live in fear again; rather, the Spirit you received brought about your adoption to sonship. And by him we cry, “Abba, Father.”  The Spirit himself testifies with our spirit that we are God’s children…”; John 15:15: “I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you” and Hebrews 12:4-11.

Be careful in confusing God’s conviction about sin with the ‘false’ guilt that comes from not living up to our own or others expectations for us.  We need to be particularly cautious in highly achievement-oriented cultures where love, acceptance, respect and opportunity are all based on how well you have performed.  The expectations and definitions of performance can vary depending on the family system, church, school, wider community or culture.  But the shame and guilt that comes with not measuring up is a different voice than God’s.  The same goes with the accusations of Satan, who schemes to remind us of past mistakes and sins.  If you have addressed these past sins already, sought forgiveness and restoration with God and those affected, then it’s not God.  Regret is from the pit of hell.

God’s conviction is always accompanied by hope, by intimacy, and a sense that he is with us.  How do you view God when it comes to conviction about sin?  Here’s one way to tell:  Picture yourself standing on one side of a great lake of fire that is your sin.  This sin is death, keeping you from experiencing fullness of life with God, others and the world around you.  Where is God?  Is he on the other side of the lake telling you about your sin and how to get across to him?  Or is he right next to you, looking at the lake of fire, your sin, with you, ready to deal with it together?  There’s a difference…and it’s big.

09. April 2014 by Greg
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I Want the Truth

God tells us the truth about who we are, who he is and all sorts of things about the world around us.  He’s not the only one.  We get all kinds of input from all kinds of places that shape our view of our self, view of God, others — our world-view.  And our worldview makes a big difference in how we see and experience and engage with our life.

Sometimes it’s subtle but very significant.  For example if you believe Jesus is your Lord/Leader and Savior are you a ‘sinner saved grace’ or a ‘saint’?  Is this just semantics?  Are you both/and instead of either/or?  Does it matter?  Try, in whatever makes sense to you, viewing yourself through one and then the other of these perspectives.  Perspectives are like the lenses in glasses and shape how we view the world.  Like say out loud, while reading this, “I’m a sinner, who was saved by grace.”  Now, say out loud (and see yourself as), “I’m a saint, who was saved by grace.”  Does it make a difference?

Here’s another one:  are you a ‘servant/slave of Christ’ or a ‘friend of Christ’?  I’m thinking here of Jesus saying to his disciples:  “I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business.  Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you.” (John 15:15)  All the same issues as above (semantics?  Both/and instead of either/or?)  Does it make a difference in terms of how you see yourself?  As Jesus points out, friends relate to each other differently than does a slave/servant and even a benevolent master.  Friends can serve one another, but a servant will never have access, intimacy and interdependence that friends have.

As always, there is a lot to this whole question of truth and God’s perspective.  The simple point here is that when it comes to hearing God’s voice, one of the things God talks to us about is his perspective.

So, what is God’s perspective about you, your circumstances, those around you and any number of other subjects on your or his mind and heart?

Try out asking him and see what happens.  For example:  God when you look at me what do you see?  God, tell me something about who you are.  When you look at my spouse, kids, friends, employee, boss, that person who has hurt me, that guy in the cubicle over there, what do you see?  Who are they from your perspective?

See what thoughts, impressions, pictures and feelings come to mind when you ask:  God what is your perspective on __________________?

I’m in the midst of a series of blog posts all about hearing God in everyday life.  So far I’ve posted about how God is speaking to us all the time and has wired us to be able to hear his voice.  We’ll cover topics like what God’s voice sounds like and how to hear and test if what you are hearing is God.  Right now I’m in the midst of the 4 primary things God talks about:  First, from the last blog post (assurance of) His love; with this post, His perspective (truth); coming up next is conviction (not condemnation) about sin.  Hopefully a little at a time can go a long way.

26. March 2014 by Greg
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Quarterly Update: We’re heading to Scotland

St Andrews, Scotland

We are heading to Scotland.  After a significant discernment process we’ve decided to pursue the opportunity to do a doctorate in Biblical Studies at the University of St Andrews.  We passed up on this opportunity two years ago, wanting to immerse ourselves in a church community that was living out what we are interested in learning about God’s presence and everyday life in the Spirit.  Bethel Church has turned out being the perfect fit for the questions we were asking and what we wanted to learn.

For the last year and half I’ve been working toward a doctorate while here in Redding and while its been very beneficial, the further I progressed the clearer it became I would be spending long hours, effort and resources on something other than what I most wanted to research.  I was attempting to put biblical scholars like NT Wright in conversation with church and revival leaders like Bill Johnson and others in my previous research proposal.  Instead I will now have spent two years immersed among the community of Bethel Church and with this move to Scotland actually study directly with NT Wright and others at the Univ. of St Andrews.  In many ways this is coming together better than I originally imagined was possible.  So much of what is going on at Bethel needs to be caught (not just taught), lived, breathed and experienced, which we’ve been able to do these past two years.  But there is more I want to learn that requires study of the original biblical languages, historical context, methods of interpreting scripture and more, which is best done in an academic setting.

St Mary’s Divinity School, University of St Andrews

There is a lot to a decision like this.  As Ali and I moved through it and all the risks and challenges involved we had a growing assurance the timing was right and this was the specific direction we needed to head in terms of doctoral research.  We welcome your prayers as we make this move.  There are a lot of logistics involved in relocating our family to the U.K.  Our kids (at least the 2.5 who understand what is happening) are a mix of excited, sad and overwhelmed all at the same time.  We plan to move to Seattle for four months this summer with the goal of saving money on housing (to offset some of our moving expenses) before making the final move to Scotland in September.

Thank you for all your support and partnership, there is no way we could be doing all this without you.

15. March 2014 by Greg
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I Love You

‘For 50 years I have known in my head God loves me.  For the first time I felt his love.’  A man shared this with me during a retreat focused on God’s presence and power.  When we have assurance we are loved it changes everything about our life and those around us.  The opposite is also true.  Many of us aren’t sure, so we spend quite a bit of time and effort looking for love by earning it, comforting the wounds and suffering of not being loved and treating others accordingly.

When it comes to hearing God’s voice it helps to know what God talks about.  Assuring you of his love is his main topic.

If you’re anything like me, you can spend most of your time talking to God for guidance.  I asked God once what to do in a decision.  All I kept hearing was:  “I love you.”  Great God, thank you, but what do I do in this situation?  “I love you.”  I love you too, but what about this decision?  “I love you.”  I finally allowed myself to soak in and receive his love and quickly realized how anxious I was and began to calm down and feel peace.  Then, clarity about the decision came much easier.  Shame and fear kill, steal and destroy relationships and life, and along the way lead to poor decisions.  Perfect love drives these out like nothing else.

It’s why I think so much of Jesus’ ministry focused on offering a different version of what God was really like.  If you listen to his teaching and actions the focus is consistently on ‘you think my Father is like this, but he is actually really like this…’  Take the story of the ‘prodigal son’ from Luke 15 as an example.

As a youth pastor, I noticed that with many teenagers who grew up in church I could say until I was blue in the face “God loves you” and it didn’t matter.  Their glazed-eyed, spaced out look said everything:  ‘I know, I know, Jesus loves me this I know for the Bible tells me so’.  Each of them needed to encounter God’s love as real, experienced, felt.

But, how?  If this is what God is talking to us about more than anything else, how do we hear and experience this more in everyday life?  This is a big topic.  I’m going to focus on two things:

  1. Believe and expect God’s demonstrating his love to you.  This is only scratching the surface.  It doesn’t address all the reasons we don’t believe, expect or have assurance of God’s love.  For example, I developed a deeply rooted operating paradigm I needed to perform well to be loved, rather than perform (do the things I do, say the things I say, etc) because I am loved.  Recognizing, healing and transforming this achievement-oriented, distorted view of love hasn’t happened overnight, and still lingers.  And the degree I operate in it is the degree I keep myself from experiencing unearned, real love that drives out my fear.  Another major obstacle for me was how emotionally shutoff I was.  God could have poured barrels full of love all over me but I could at most only experience a trickle of it because my heart was so hard.  That said, believing and expecting God’s constantly demonstrating his love is a great place to start (and end).  It opens us up to receive what he is giving.
  2. Understand how you feel loved.  So much of experiencing more of God in everyday life involves knowing who you are (and who you aren’t) and embracing this.  Gary Chapman developed language for identifying five different ways people feel loved:  words of affirmation, touch, gifts, acts of service and quality time (www.5lovelanguages.com).  We each prefer one or two of these over the others and have assurance someone loves us when they speak our primary love language.  God knows your love language and will speak to you in this way.  For example, my primary love language is touch and quality time.  It has taken me awhile to recognize this, but looking back over my life in relationship with God the two primary ways I have felt most loved and connected to him are when we spend significant amount of unstructured, unfocused time hanging out together, enjoying one another, just simply being together.  And one of unique ways I experience God is feeling his presence physically in my body.  I literally feel God’s touch, like being hugged, held, energy, warmth.  He spoke to me in my primary love languages even before I fully understood them.  It took awhile to embrace how physically affectionate God is and his desire to spend time together without a particular ‘to do’ to obey.  A book that helped with this was Jack Frost’s Experiencing Father’s Embrace, among others.

So, try it out:  believe and expect God to assure you of his love in the primary way you give and receive love.  Remember from the previous post, God is near you right now, constantly talking (about his love for you) and designed you to hear him.  Listen for and experience his love.  And see what happens to you and those around you when you get so filled with God’s love it overflows out of you onto others, sometimes without you even trying or realizing it.

***This is part of a series on Hearing and Experiencing God in Everyday Life.  Posts build on each other.  Consider subscribing on the home page of gregmillikan.com to receive these posts by e-mail.***

06. March 2014 by Greg
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Keeping it simple…

Hearing God’s voice is something very simple that we have made complex.  Simple doesn’t always mean easy.  And something can be simple, but also very dynamic.  My 1 year old has figured out how to take pictures and open (and delete) apps on my phone.  It’s simple and intuitive enough for her to learn and do, but obviously there is much more to my phone than taking pictures up my nose.

In upcoming posts I want to share several things that have helped me understand the more dynamic elements of interacting with God in everyday life.  For now, let’s focus on the simplicity:

  1. God is speaking to us all the time.
  2. He has given us the ability to hear.
  3. He speaks all kinds of different ways.

Let’s just stop there and notice something.  If these statements are true, how would you answer the question:  How do you hear/see/experience God?  Really, take a moment to think about how.

This could involve looking back at times in the past you’ve experienced intimacy with God.  Or you can pay attention to the things you do or even where you go and who you are with when you want to connect with God.  And right now you may not even be consciously aware of ever hearing God or don’t have a language yet for answering a question like this.

If your experience is anything like mine we usually put the focus on what we need to do to hear God’s voice.  People have various answers for this, from spend more time reading the Bible, spend more time praying, we even have a whole vocabulary for this from ‘quiet times’ to ‘devotions’.  Surely there are things we can all do, general principles really, to help us hear God’s voice better, but what if we wait on those a second and just stay on these three statements?

I’m pretty convinced that if we agree with them, believe them, we will start hearing God’s voice more than we do now.

  1. God is speaking to us all the time (whether we are listening/paying attention or not).
  2. He has given us the ability to hear his voice.  We are made for intimacy with God, so you in cannot ‘not’ hear him.  And he is very, very near to us by the Spirit.
  3. He speaks all kinds of different ways to different people.  So hearing God’s voice is unique to everyone and their personal relationship with God.

Often the issue is not “God, what do you want me to do?” but “God what do you want me to believe?”.  We do what we believe.  Our beliefs shape our actions and our expectations and subsequent interpretation of our experience.  Which either reinforces or changes our beliefs.  We are often so focused on behavior modification, or what we need to do to get something to happen we miss the significance of core beliefs and identity.  More on this later…

For now, try this out.   Agree with/believe these three statements and start seeing what happens.  Whether you declare them out loud or meditate on them or whatever it looks like for you to believe them, see what starts to happen over these next few weeks.

And in future posts I’ll go more into what God talks about, what his voice sounds like and discernment (‘how do we know it’s God?’).

19. February 2014 by Greg
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Fear is a liar…

Fear lies.  Always.  We can split hairs here about the healthy biological response of fear that trips your adrenaline to allow your body to fight or flight and save you physically from a threatening situation.  So, saving the splitting hairs for another time:  If we feel fear we are being lied to and believing it.  The best lies are slight distortions of the truth backed up by years of experience and reinforced by the cultural norms of the majority of people around us.  In other words, fear is:





We wouldn’t be afraid if the lie didn’t seem so real.  And just because it’s ‘real’ doesn’t mean it’s true.  So we’ve believed it and agreed with whatever/whomever lied to us.  Take a quick skim of Genesis 3 for a snapshot of how this inevitably plays out.  Satan’s influence is proportional to how much we agree with his version of ourselves, others, God and life in this world.  Or as famed quarterback Terry Bradshaw advised Russell Wilson, stay calm on the big stage of the Super Bowl like its any other game because the first place the adrenaline of fear and nerves goes is to your vision and you don’t see well and throw interceptions…interesting advice for life.

The most frequent command God gives people throughout the Bible is:  “don’t be afraid, because I am with you”.

This tells us at least two things:  (1) God understands our propensity to fear and (2) He thinks he has something to take care of it.

But, not believing a lie and choosing to believe the truth in various situations can be a bit of a battle—a battle where our peace is at stake and therefore the very presence and manifestation of the kingdom of heaven here on earth, as I described in my last blog post.

Just like a belt can keep your pants on, truth keeps your peace on (i.e. Ephesians 6:10-17).

So, if this happens to you, where you’ve lost your peace and are feeling fear, try this:

1)   Hone in on the thought associated with the fear/anxiety or lack of peace.    This will lead you straight to the lie you believe.  At first you may find it easier to identify the situation, person, decision or memory of a past experience that started you feeling anxious.  But, these aren’t the issue as much as your perspective (beliefs/thoughts) about them.  So what are your thoughts/beliefs?  Ask God, “what lie(s) am I believing?”

2)   Identify the truth that confronts and overcomes/replaces this particular lie.  The more specific the truth the better.  This can prove challenging.  One of the reasons we believe the lie is because we don’t know the truth that’s more real and compelling than the lie.  We may know the truth in a hypothetical sort of way but not really trust it as real and applicable in our life, in the circumstance we’re in.  Don’t be discouraged, discovering this is huge and crucial in having an effective way/strategy for battling the lie.  You may need some help if you get stuck here from the Spirit, through Scripture, from others, even inner healing prayer of some sort and possibly even effective counseling.  More often than not, rather than asking God so much “what do you want me to do?” its more important to ask God “what do you want me to believe (about you, myself, others, my circumstances, the world)?”  Ask God and see what you hear.

3)   Break agreement with the lie and choose to believe the truth.

  1. You can say something like “I break agreement with the lie that ______” or you can just laugh about it expressing how hilarious it is to believe something that dumb.  Laughter is good medicine and joy is your strength.
  2. Meditate on the truth and choose to believe it.  This can look lots of different ways, even saying out loud or in your ‘heart’ “I choose to believe that truth that ­­­­­___________”.  The idea here is that our thoughts and beliefs can be pretty habitual.  Breaking the ‘habit’ of certain ways of thinking/believing is like breaking other types of habits.  So whether it takes you 3, 7, or 30 days to form or break habits, immerse yourself in the truth.  Also, because of what Jesus did on the cross and resurrection we have options about what we believe and can ‘choose’ our beliefs.  Along the way remember that Truth is a person and trust (i.e. faith/belief) is built through the experience of relationship with God and others.  So this isn’t just a rote repetition of truth statements, although that may be helpful, it’s about intimacy and living life with God.  So it involves fasting from certain specific lies and all that they are reinforced by and feasting on the truth and all the experiences, relationships and stories that reinforce and affirm the particular truth you are having trouble believing.

4)   And before you know it you’ll notice peace resting on you and being with you again.

The short version:  Break agreement with the lie and choose to believe the truth…with God.

This can feel a bit unnatural and take some focus at times.  Error heavily on the side of asking God to help you with all of this and doing it all with him, rather than using your own will power/strength.  (Notice a theme here?)  Soon enough you’ll know who you are, who God is and the schemes of the enemy and you’ll be killing giants with slingshots.

12. February 2014 by Greg
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Oops I lost my peace…

I’ve got this principle that the sooner you look for something after you’ve lost it the easier it is to find it.  You can retrace your steps easier because you actually remember where you were the last time you had it.

The kingdom of heaven is righteousness, peace and joy in the Holy Spirit (Romans 14:17).  This is a ringer of a verse and a great candidate for Greek word studies.  Often righteousness gets minimized down to moral behavior rather than a larger picture of restoration to where things on earth are aligned with how they are in heaven.  Peace, well that’s the thing I want to talk about that I keep losing.  And joy, oh joy, sweet joy.  I love joy.  It’s key to so much in the way God operates, but in everyday life can be elusive at times.  And all of this is ‘in the Holy Spirit’.  In God’s presence…

Losing things is a daily, if not hourly reality of life in our house.  Just take the twenty minutes required every time we leave to go anywhere as a family, primarily spent looking for shoes, ‘deedees’,  ‘neenees’ and Winne the Pooh (special/comfort blankets) and recently every kid’s Seahawks hat.  I have seriously considered getting 3-4 pairs of each of these items to increase the odds of finding them.  Although inevitably three left shoes will not turn into a right.

Over years of doing this you become naturally more sensitive to keeping track of certain things.  If I’m walking around the house and notice a shoe behind the toilet for example I stop to grab it and put it somewhere closer to a door for when we’ll need it.  And like those classic matching memory games, I’ll keep a mental map in my head of where I last saw things in preparation for the recurring question, “Dad, where is my….?”.

“The same place you last left it.”

“Can you find it for me?”

All this applies to when I lose my peace.  The peace the Father has given me through Jesus by the Spirit.  There is a mystery to this peace, in that it transcends all understanding (Phil 4:6-8).  It’s a real presence, an actual substance that can be even be felt and interacted with and given away to others.  It can actually rest on us.  It creates a mindset or perspective toward ourselves, others and our circumstances, cultivating wonderful emotions or feelings which flow from this mindset/perspective.  It is also creates a reality of unity, alignment, a shalom, where there is not conflict, bitterness, war, unforgiveness, etc in relationships between people, with God and even in nature/creation.  This word resonates at a personal, inter-personal, social, national and international level.  All that to say there is a lot to it and it is powerful stuff.

And this peace, well, sometimes I lose it…sometimes a lot of times.  I’ve even gone through seasons in my life where I’ve so lost it I just live life functionally without it.  Not fun…for me or for others around me, particularly those dependent on me.

Recently I notice pretty quickly when I’ve lost it.  It’s been a bit more like walking around without pants on…I can only get so far without my peace on before things get awkward.  And that old principle rings true:  the sooner you look for something you lost the easier it is to find it.

So, I’m going through my day and something happens and I lose my peace.  I start seeing/hearing, interpreting and reacting to things through a perspective different than God’s.  I quickly replace this peace from heaven with fear, which leads to control, which usually involves moving quicker in my actions and my thoughts, treating myself and others with less love and making dumber decisions.  Anger starts popping out at others, served up on a platter of ‘shoulds’.  Nobody really likes getting ‘should’ on, so I create ample opportunities for others to lose their peace.  And then somewhere in the midst of it I look down (or at my thoughts, actions, how my body is feeling, what’s happening around me) and notice I don’t have my peace on.  Ah, if only it was as socially unacceptable to walk around without peace as it is without your pants.

So, I retrace my steps, which usually means my thoughts and try to find where I left my peace.  I usually find it without too much trouble.  Inevitably something happened or an interaction with someone or just some memory or thought and I lose my peace.  Sometimes I have to look around quite of few corners I turned and decisions I made and look under multiple things my peace got buried under.  And often while I’m looking I say out loud, in my head, where I know God can hear me, “Dad where’s my peace?  I lost it.”  “Can you find it for me?”  And we’ll go looking for it together.

30. January 2014 by Greg
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Ali’s blog: Parenting, Prophetic and the Presence

Ali in mini vanI mentioned in my last post that Ali is starting a blog.  It is up at www.aliincali.com.  It’s titled “Parenting, Prophetic and the Presence” and her focus is on awareness of and experiencing God in the everyday stuff of life, even nonstop, sometimes mundane, daily life spent parenting.

Realizing God’s is ‘in the room’ with us, that we can hear God’s voice and even experience his presence has changed everything for Ali and I.  But we’ve both found ourselves surprised how easy (and confusing) and normal (but not always natural) interacting or being ‘with God’ in the everyday stuff of life is.  It often means more a change in perspective, identity and expectation then necessarily behavior modification, attendance to church programs and effort (religious or otherwise).  And God is closer, kinder and  wilder than we often think.Joy at beach

We’re most excited about what this all looks like in everyday life, in jobs, relationships, daily moments and decisions, etc.  So these blogs focus on us doing and learning this ourselves, with a little extra on my blog on the specific research I’m doing.  So, take a look at www.aliincali.com and look back here for future posts on experiencing God in everyday life.

13. November 2013 by Greg
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After a Brief Hiatus…

Ali and I have been shifting a few things around in terms of blog posting (hence the few months hiatus and no posts).  The dust has settled quite abit after the last year and a half of transition, and this site has served as a catch all place to share what we’ve been up to as a family and in our move, work, funding, etc.  Now we’re making a slight, subtle shift of using this blog for me to focus in on what I’m doing in my research and Ali is starting a blog soon to be launched titled: Parenting, Prophetic and the Presence of God.  More on this to come.

For now I thought I’d mark this shift by briefly describing what the research I’m doing on the way people tangibly experience God’s presence (manifestations of the Spirit) is all about.  I think the simplest way to do this may be sharing a link to Dr. Crispin Fletcher-Louis’s blog post where he describes my research from his perspective. Click on this link to take a look: http://www.humanidol.com/blog/the-153/bill-johnson-tom-wright/ .  Thanks for your interest and support!

30. October 2013 by Greg
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